“Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”
— George Eliot
I love this quote because it reminds me of the book Opening Up (249 pages, 1997) by James Pennebaker. The book is all about healing through self disclosure. The key idea is to open up, to sharing our feelings with a confidant, without any secrets. The confidant — the listener — must be non-judgmental, calm and peaceful for healing to take place.
Positive thinking rules! Thankfulness makes us positive!
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
— Mark Twain
Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they've got a second.
— William James
During hikes, I've noticed the phenomenon of 'second wind' first hand. In the first twenty minutes, I and my fellow hikers are typically panting, out of breath. At that time, it appears as if we cannot even finish two miles! However, by persisting, all that huffing and puffing comes to an end. Our body somehow adjusts itself and walking becomes easy! By the 1 hour mark, we start feeling confident that we can cover ten miles comfortably! :) It's important to persist in the first twenty minutes!
The best way out is always through.
— Robert Frost
Let's say a negative emotion has arisen. Should we deny it, avoid it, bury it? No. We should face it, embrace it, feel it. By doing so, that emotion runs its natural course and goes away on its own, without affecting us in the future. The same for positive emotions.
Be the change that you wish to see in the world.
— Mahatma Gandhi
The best way to spread peace and happiness in the world is to become peaceful and happy ourselves! We spread to others whatever we are inside. If we are angry, we spread anger. If we are in grief, we spread sadness. If we are joyful, we spread joy! If we are full of positive energy, we spread positive energy!
Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable,
but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself."
— William Martin (The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents)
The experience of life itself is an extraordinary experience. How does my hand work? It's a miracle! How does a plant grow? Another miracle! Breath? Another miracle! The book The Seven Wonders of Sassafras Springs (224 pages, 2007) is a book for kids. The book narrates the story of a little girl who lives on a farm but longs to see the Seven Wonders of the World! She gradually realizes that wonderful things are happening all the time, all around her! :)