Year: 1964
Movie: Aap Ki Parchhaiyan
Singer: Lata Mangeshkar
Lyricist: Raja Mehdi Ali Khan
Music Director: Madan Mohan
Lyrics: here
Out of love, a woman offers to reduce her man's misery by sharing his grief. If her man does not open up, she feels helpless and unloved. Four songs along this theme are listed below.
Four Songs
- Dukh Aur Sukh Ke Raste (1961, Sahir Ludhianvi). The lyrics of this song are simple and straightforward, coming directly from the heart. They slowly build up to a beautiful climax. This song is between equals, a couple who is together.
- Tum Apna Ranj-o-Gham (1964, Sahir Ludhianvi). This song is most poetic, with Urdu words. The underlying theme is unrequited love. The woman sincerely wishes to help the man she loves. She also seeks acceptance.
- Agar Mujhse Mohabbat Hai (1964, Sahir Ludhianvi).
- Aaja Piya Tohe Pyar Doo (1967, Majrooh Sultanpuri). This song is more 'physical'. The woman invites her man to melt into her arms to relieve him of his misery.
Opening Up
From personal experience, I can affirm that sharing one's inner self (without any inhibitions) with somebody who loves you, is huge! It heals.
Opening Up: The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions by Dr James Pennebaker, 249 pages, 1997, is a fantastic book. It summarizes Pennebaker's research into self disclosure. For over twenty years, Pennebaker studied how verbalization of traumatic experiences aids recovery. Verbalization may be done through writing, journaling, confessions and speaking to strangers (cab drivers or co-passengers in an aeroplane).
My personal belief is that self disclosure with somebody who loves you is most effective. Such a person shall forgive you, hug you and bless you, no matter what is bothering you, no matter what somebody did to you, no matter what you did.
Roman Script
In Aankho Ka Har Ek Aansoo Mujhe Meri Qasam De Do
Agar Mujhse Mohabbat Hai, ...
Hindi
इन आँखों का हर इक आँसू मुझे मेरी क़सम दे दो
अगर मुझ से मुहब्बत है ...
Translation
Swear on me and give me each and every tear in these eyes.
If you love me, ...
Roman Script
Tumhara Dard Seene Mein Chhupa Loo To Qaraar Aaye
Wo Har Shay Jo Tumhe Dukh De Mujhe Mere Sanam De Do
Agar Mujhse Mohabbat Hai, ...
Hindi
तुम्हारा दर्द सीने में छुपा लूँ तो क़रार आए
वो हर शय जो तुम्हें दुख दे मुझे मेरे सनम दे दो
अगर मुझ से मुहब्बत है
Translation
I will be agreeable (satisfied) only if I can hide your pain in my own heart.
Every activity that gives you sorrow, give it to me, my love!
If you love me, ...
Roman Script
Dukho Ko Baant Kar Kyu In Dukho Ko Kam Nahi Karte
Tadap Is Dil Ki Thodi Si Mujhe Mere Sanam De Do
Agar Mujhse Mohabbat Hai, ...
Hindi
दुखों को बाँट कर क्यूँ इन दुखों को कम नहीं करते
तड़प इस दिल की थोड़ी सी मुझे मेरे सनम दे दो
अगर मुझ से मुहब्बत है
Translation
Why don't you reduce your misery by sharing it?
Give me a little bit of your anxiety, my love!
If you love me ...
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