Year: 1967
Movie: Baharon Ke Sapne
Singer: Lata Mangeskhar
Lyricist: Majrooh Sultanpuri
Music Director: R D Burman
Lyrics: here
Out of love, a woman offers to reduce her man's misery by sharing his grief. If her man does not open up, she feels helpless and unloved. Four songs along this theme are listed below.
Four Songs
- Dukh Aur Sukh Ke Raste (1961, Sahir Ludhianvi). The lyrics of this song are simple and straightforward, coming directly from the heart. They slowly build up to a beautiful climax. This song is between equals, a couple who is together.
- Tum Apna Ranj-o-Gham (1964, Sahir Ludhianvi). This song is most poetic, with Urdu words. The underlying theme is unrequited love. The woman sincerely wishes to help the man she loves. She also seeks acceptance.
- Agar Mujhse Mohabbat Hai (1964, Sahir Ludhianvi).
- Aaja Piya Tohe Pyar Doo (1967, Majrooh Sultanpuri). This song is more 'physical'. The woman invites her man to melt into her arms to relieve him of his misery.
Opening Up
From personal experience, I can affirm that sharing one's inner self (without any inhibitions) with somebody who loves you, is huge! It heals.
Opening Up: The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions by Dr James Pennebaker, 249 pages, 1997, is a fantastic book. It summarizes Pennebaker's research into self disclosure. For over twenty years, Pennebaker studied how verbalization of traumatic experiences aids recovery. Verbalization may be done through writing, journaling, confessions and speaking to strangers (cab drivers or co-passengers in an aeroplane).
My personal belief is that self disclosure with somebody who loves you is most effective. Such a person shall forgive you, hug you and bless you, no matter what is bothering you, no matter what somebody did to you, no matter what you did.
Roman Script
Kis Liye Tu Itna Udaas, Sookhe Sookhe Honth, Ankhiyo Mein Pyaas
Kis Liye Kis Liye ...
Hindi
किस लिये तू, इतना उदास, सूखे सूखे होंठ, अँखियों मे प्यास
किस लिये किस लिये ...
Translation
Why are you so sad? With dry lips and with thirsty eyes.
Roman Script
Thake Hue In Haatho Ko, De de Mere Haath Mein
Ho! Sukh Mera Le Le, Main Dukh Tere Le Loo
Main Bhi Jiyoo, Tu Bhi Jiye
Hindi
थके हुए इन हाथों को देदे मेरे हाथ में
हो, सुख मेरा लेले, मैं दुख तेरे लेलूँ
मैं भी जियूँ, तु भी जिये, हो, आ जा पिया...
Translation
Let your tired hands be in my hands.
Take my happiness. Give me your sadness.
Live and let live. Come to me, my love, ...
Roman Script
Palko Se Chun Daalongi Main, Kaante Tere Paao Ke
Ho! Lat Bikhraye, Chunariya Bichhaye, Baithi Hu Main Tere Liye
Ho! Aaja Piya ...
Hindi
पलकों से चुन डालूंगी मैं काँटे तेरे पाँओं के
हो, लट बिखराए, चुनरिया बिछाए, बैठी हूँ मैं तेरे लिये
हो, आ जा पिया...
Translation
With my eyebrows, I shall take away thorns in your feet.
With my hair open, with my veil lifted, I am sitting here (waiting) for you.
Come to me, my love ...
Roman Script
Khil Padi Bas Ek Hansi, Piya Tere Pyaar Ki
Ho! Main Jo Nahi Haari, Sajan Zara Socho
Kis Liye, Kis Liye? Ho! Aaja Piya ...
Hindi
खिल पड़ी बस एक हंसी पिया तेरे प्यार की
हो, मैं जो नहीं हारी, सजन ज़रा सोचो
किस लिये, किस लिये हो, आ जा पिया...
Translation
Only one smile blossomed. That was (in memory of) your love.
O my love, think a little: when I am undefeated,
Why? Why? Come to me, my love ...
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