Song: Dukh Aur Sukh Ke Raste
Year: 1961
Movie: Hum Dono
Singer: Asha Bhosle
Lyricist: Sahir Ludhianvi
Music Director: Jaidev
Lyrics: here
Song: Abhi Na Jao Chhod Kar
Year: 1961
Movie: Hum Dono
Singer: Mohammed Rafi, Asha Bhosle
Lyricist: Sahir Ludhianvi
Music Director: Jaidev
Lyrics: here
Out of love, a woman offers to reduce her man's misery by sharing his grief. If her man does not open up, she feels helpless and unloved. Four songs along this theme are listed below.
Four Songs
- Dukh Aur Sukh Ke Raste (1961, Sahir Ludhianvi). The lyrics of this song are simple and straightforward, coming directly from the heart. They slowly build up to a beautiful climax. This song is between equals, a couple who is together.
- Tum Apna Ranj-o-Gham (1964, Sahir Ludhianvi). This song is most poetic, with Urdu words. The underlying theme is unrequited love. The woman sincerely wishes to help the man she loves. She also seeks acceptance.
- Agar Mujhse Mohabbat Hai (1964, Sahir Ludhianvi).
- Aaja Piya Tohe Pyar Doo (1967, Majrooh Sultanpuri). This song is more 'physical'. The woman invites her man to melt into her arms to relieve him of his misery.
Opening Up
From personal experience, I can affirm that sharing one's inner self (without any inhibitions) with somebody who loves you, is huge! It heals.
Opening Up: The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions by Dr James Pennebaker, 249 pages, 1997, is a fantastic book. It summarizes Pennebaker's research into self disclosure. For over twenty years, Pennebaker studied how verbalization of traumatic experiences aids recovery. Verbalization may be done through writing, journaling, confessions and speaking to strangers (cab drivers or co-passengers in an aeroplane).
My personal belief is that self disclosure with somebody who loves you is most effective. Such a person shall forgive you, hug you and bless you, no matter what is bothering you, no matter what somebody did to you, no matter what you did.
Roman Script
Jo Gham Se Haar Jaaoge, To Kis Tarah Nibhaaoge
Khushi Mile Hamein Ke Gham, Khushi Mile Hamein Ke Gham
Jo Hoga Baant Lenge Ham, Mujhe Tum Aazmaao To
Zara Nazar Milaao To, Zara Nazar Milaao To
Ye Jism Door Hai Magar, Dilo Mein Faasla Nahee
Jahaan Mein Aisa Kaun Hai, Ki Jisko Gham Mila Nahee
Hindi
जो ग़म से हार जाओगे, तो किस तरह निभाओगे
खुशी मिले हमें के ग़म, खुशी मिले हमे के ग़म
जो होगा बाँट लेंगे हम, मुझे तुम आज़माओ तो
ज़रा नज़र मिलाओ तो, ज़रा नज़र मिलाओ तो
ये जिस्म दूर हैं मगर दिलों में फ़ासला नहीं
जहाँ में ऐसा कौन है, कि जिसको ग़म मिला नहीं
Translation
If you shall be defeated by sorrow, then how will you sustain (our relationship)?
Whether we get joy or sorrow, whether we get joy or sorrow,
Whatever it is, we will share. Try me!
Look at me, look at me!
This body is away from you. But our hearts are not apart.
Who is there in this world, who never faced grief?
Roman Script
N Yoo Bujhe Bujhe Raho, Jo Dil Ki Baat Hai Kaho
Jo Mujh Se Bhi Chhupaaoge, Jo Mujh Se Bhi Chhupaaoge
To Phir Kise Bataaoge, Main Koi Gair To Nahi
Dilaaoo Kis Tarah Yaqee, Dilaaoo Kis Tarah Yaqee
Ki Tumse Main Judaa Nahee, Mujhse Tum Judaa Nahee
Hindi
न यूँ बुझे बुझे रहो, जो दिल की बात है कहो
जो मुझ से भी छुपाओगे, जो मुझ से भी छुपाओगे
तो फिर किसे बताओगे मैं कोइ गैर तो नहीं
दिलाऊँ किस तरह यक़ीं, दिलाऊँ किस तरह यक़ीं
कि तुम से मैं जुदा नहीं, मुझ से तुम जुदा नहीं
Translation
Do not remain gloomy. Speak up whatever is in your heart.
If you hide it even from me, if you hide it even from me,
Then who will you tell? I am not a stranger.
How may I convince you? How may I convince you?
That I am inseparable from you, and you are inseparable from me.
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